Christmas is the season of giving, and lord knows we give so many gifts this time of year that we sometimes put ourselves into financial difficulty just cover the basics.
You make sure everyone has a gift, teachers have a gift, coworkers or staff have a little something, the food shopping is done, The house is cleaned to a very high standard and everyone’s gifts are labelled and bagged ready to be delivered.
But how often do you give yourself a gift? I’m not talking bout treating yourself to that cute dress you’ve seen or a new moisturiser because yours has run out. I mean a real special gift to give yourself, and *spoiler Alert* you won’t even have to reach for your purse as all these gifts, like all the really good ones, don’t cost a penny.
Make 2020 a year that you really dedicate to yourself.
The first gift I want you to give yourself is acknowledgement.
I want you to really take a look at your life and recognise all of the difficult things you’ve encountered and overcome, all of the painful experiences you have worked through, all of the lessons you have learned, all of the wonderful things you’ve experienced, all of the things you’ve worked for, all of the miracles you’ve created and all of the blessings you have to be grateful for.
You did it all. You’ve overcome and worked through every single experience you’ve ever had, and although every single one of them has contributed to who you are today, none of them define who you are. They were simply one of the many experiences you’ve encountered and got through.
So I beg you, if you don’t give yourself any other gift, please just acknowledge yourself.
The next gift I want you to give yourself, is investment.
We know that if we invest time, energy or money into something, it’s because we want that thing to bloom and grow. That is my wish for you. I want you to bloom and grow into the happiest, fullest and most authentic version of yourself.
You can invest in yourself by signing up to a new course or class, buying (or borrowing) a book that speaks to you, allowing yourself set time to indulge in some self-care, seeking outside help from a mentor or coach, and many other ways.
You are your biggest asset. Invest in yourself and allow yourself to grow and evolve into the best version of yourself, however that looks to you.
The last gift I wish for you, elaborates on from investing in yourself. This gift can be a lot more difficult for many, so just approach it with an open mind.
The third gift I want you to give yourself is belief. Reflecting on from all that you acknowledged yourself for, have the belief that although difficult times have come, they have also gone. Reflect on all the wonderful things you’ve experienced and believe that you’ve had wonderful experiences before and you can have them again. Reflect on all the things you’ve worked towards in the past and that have come to fruition, and believe that you can absolutely achieve things you want again.
The issue here is that many of us have been conditioned over many, many years to believe we just “fail” and failing is ‘bad’. so we have come to learn that we just shouldn’t even try because we ‘can’t do it’. Rubbish!
If you are at the point where you really don’t believe you can do it, at least approach things with curiosity.
“I wonder if I just tried, how far I could go.”
“If I just asked, they could say no and that would be fine, but what if they said yes?”
“They gave sally, who sits across from me a raise last year, so there’s a good change they’d give me one too as I’ve hit all my targets this year.”
“If I commit myself to exercising 3 times this week and trying out those yummy looking recipes, I wonder if I’d loose any weight?”
“I wonder if I hired a coach and done all the work she told me to do, I’d be able to get out of this rut and feeling of hopelessness and maybe even begin to love myself again? Can’t hurt, right?”
When you approach something with curiosity, you take all the pressure off and it’s no longer a case of failure or success, its just playful, experimentation and mischievous. So again, if you’re not at the place where you have full belief, then at least be curious to the possibilities you are capable of. I can guarantee you, you’re wrong about yourself. All the limitations you have put upon yourself have stopped you from even trying so you don’t really know what you can do. You just decided you can’t.
Now it’s your turn.
Get your pen and notebook, and list at least 10 things you acknowledge yourself for, and try to make it a range of difficult, exciting, proud moments.
Next, write down 5 possible ways you can invest in yourself that will get you closer to a version of yourself that you want to become.
Lastly, write the following statement:
I Believe I have the ability to try and I’m curious to see how much I can do.