In my last blog, Do You Want to be Happy? Or Right? I explained to you that our brains alter our memories of events to justify the emotion we feel about it. Therefore our memories can’t be fully trusted as an exact account of factual events that occurred.
Yet, our memories are what we base everything on. We look at the ‘evidence‘ (AKA memories) of our past and develop belief systems about the things and people in our lives and take these belief systems to be the truth (you can read more about belief systems in these posts, you don’t have to believe a belief and how to change a limiting belief).
But now that we know our memories are altered and sometimes completely fabricated, it begs the question: Is my view on reality, correct?
Well, the answer is like this quote:
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.Henry Ford
You are your own limitation for what is possible. If you think you can do something, you will. If you believe you cannot do it, your subconscious mind will sabotage any attempt you make to try to achieve it and therefore prove your belief ‘correct‘ that you couldn’t achieve it.
So, you could say, that your memories of the past are determining your future. This was a mind-blowing concept for me that I heard from a brilliant man, named Dr Joe Dispenza. You can find thousands of videos of him sharing his wisdom on YouTube, but here’s a great 10 minute video that will bow you away.
He talks about how everything we do is a record of the past. It’s just the way our brains work. They take everything we’ve learned, find patterns and regularities and form habits and beliefs in the subconscious so that these things run on automation in order to preserve energy.
Creating change requires consciously changing what you create. If you live the same life day after day, you’re creating the same results. If you wake up at the same time, get out of the same side of the bed, brush your teeth in the same routine, with the same toothbrush and same toothpaste and always make the same hot drink in the same mug and eat the same foods and see the same people, you create the same internal dialogue and create the same results. If you want change, you have to change your routine in order to change your thoughts and then your behaviors change and then you notice that your environment (and the way you perceive it) changes.
The best way to predict your future is to create it. Yes, it feels a bit unnatural at first, but that’s because it is. It’s not the routines and habits you’ve created and doesn’t come naturally. But it’ll only feel like that until you train your subconscious to develop these patterns and behaviors as automatic and that only happens through repetition. You can’t give it a go once or twice and then give up. You have to make a commitment. A commitment to the life you say you want.
Do you want to loose weight but the only time you can squeeze some exercise in is at 5am every morning? Well, how bad do you want it?
Do you need a second job to pay off some debts but the only place hiring the suits your needs is the pizza delivery place? How bad do you want to be debt-free?
Do you want to meet new, friendly and inspiring people but you’re nervous to attend some of the meets you’ve found? It’s only scary once. The second time you’ll know some people. What if these people change your life? What if you find love? What if these people have the connections to give you your dream job and make you a bucket load of money?
No one is saying these things have to be permanent, they’re just a means to an end. You have to think about your why and what you want, not how you get it.
They say life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Step outside the norm and start living.
Make a list of all of the things you’d like to be, do and have within the next 6 months to a year in your life.
-one that you think would be the easiest to achieve
-one that your heart is calling most for
-one that would upgrade your life in some way.
For each of these three things, list at least 15 ways each that could help you achieve them. No matter how big, small, good or bad the idea, get it down. The idea here is not to be logical or realistic, it’s just to get ideas flowing and show that there are more pathways to our desires than our brains like to admit.
Once you have 15 ideas for each desire, circle
-one idea that you could start today
-one that would make the most progress
-one that you incorporate regularly into your life.
The idea that you can start today…. do it. No excuses!
The idea that would make the most progress, get the ball rolling now, research whatever you have to, arrange whatever needs to be arranged and put a timeline on it. You don’t have to be rigid with this timeline, but what get’s scheduled, gets done.
The idea that you could incorporate regularly into your life, decide when and how often you will do this and schedule it into your day/week. Start training your subconscious mind that this will be a new habit.