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If you look online for ways to become happier, more positive and more successful, you will find different versions of the same list.
All giving you a list of even more things to do in your day. Yes, they are helpful and, yes, they will help you become happier, more positive and more successful but come on, who has the time to meditate for 20 minutes and exercise for an hour before you even go to work in the morning?
Life is busy! Well, at least, mine is. Yes, I like to meditate and journal and even do some yoga now and again, but I don’t want to dedicate 3 hours and a whole lot of energy to activities that, to be honest, I really don’t have time for. I don’t really watch TV, I don’t scroll on social media, I don’t even have as much sleep as I’d like, so don’t try to tell me I could find those 3 hours if I tried.
I don’t want to over-work myself to feel happier. Sounds a bit counter-productive, right? I want things to just be effortless and do it for me. I mean isn’t that what technology is for?
Who would choose to hand wash their clothes when the washing machine can do a much better job?
In Neuro-Linguisitic Programming (NLP – are you bored of me talking about it yet?) We create (and collapse) things called ‘anchors’ but they are also known as ‘triggers’ that are basically when an emotional response is created by a stimulus. For example, when you hear a certain song and it reminds you of school because it’s what you sang with your friend at a talent show. Or when you smell rolling tobacco and it reminds you of your grandad as he used to put it in his pipe when you were little. Or that angelic picture of your kids when they were little always gives you that heart-warming feeling of overwhelming love and pride.
You have a very real emotional response to something that you’ve either remembered or has come through one of your five senses. That’s an anchor.
You can create your own anchors that constantly remind you of how awesome you are, how beautiful you are and how worthy you are. You can also set up your own anchors to help manifest your desires into your life. I’m just going to say it. I like feeling good. Feeling good feels good and I want to make sure everything (or as many things as possible) in my environment support my happiness.
How many times a day do you enter a password into your phone or computer? If you’re like most people, the answer is probably “a lot”. Why not take advantage of that and make your password something that you want to remind yourself of? Instead of your password being something like the name of your pet from 15 years ago, why not make it something like ‘IamHappy’, ‘IamLoved’, ‘1amEnough’, or ‘Feeling5exy’? Or you can create a password that represents what you want to manifest into your life, for example ‘Buisne55Owner’ or ‘sexySize14’. Even the pin numbers on your phone or debit cards can represent something. Everytime you type ‘0-8-0-8’ you can make each number match the syllables to “I.Am.So.Great”.
Everytime you consciously enter in your password or pin number, you will unconsciously send a reminder to your subconscious and tell it “this is how it’s going to be around here from now on” and over time, you will develop these things as beliefs about your identity.
The Reticular Activating System (RAS) in your brain will then go on to look for evidence related to your anchor to reinforce it’s value and strengthen it’s believability. So when you keep putting in your password ‘1feelpretty’ and your pin number is 0-0-3-3 (Oh.So.Pret-ty), the next time someone pays you the compliment “You look really great today”, you’re going to start believe it rather than think they’re obviously delusional or they’re just being polite. You will even pass a mirror and think “Oh hey, beautiful!”
It is believed that the average human receives around 11 million pieces of information per second through our five senses, but this would be too much for our conscious mind to handle. So, our Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters this information and only delivers the pieces which it believes to be relevant to our conscious mind. So, rather than 11 million pieces of information, we are only consciously aware of about 50 pieces of information. That means that our brain is receiving approximately 10,999,950 pieces of information per second that we are unaware of.
It makes sense. If you’re watching TV or working at your computer, you tend to have a tunnel vision and are only aware of that which you are focused on. You don’t notice the colour of the walls or the feel of the desk. You don’t notice the sound of the birds tweeting outside or how fast you’re breathing. You don’t notice the feel of the clothes on your skin or that you’re shaking your foot and driving someone else crazy. There is information flooding into your five senses every second without you realising it. Let’s take advantage of this.
By posting your favourite quotes or mantras on a sticky note or a print-out on your desk, near your TV or somewhere (safely) in your car, you are allowing your peripheral vision to pick up on this achor and plant yet another seed into your subconscious mind.
Even when you are unaware, you’re conditioning your subconscious mind to work for you.
This is a bit science-y, so I’m going to try and keep it simple.
Dr Bruce Lipton said that there are only two ways to reprogram your subconscious mind. The first is through repetition. By repeating thoughts and behaviours, we train our subconscious mind to run these automatically. As the subconscious mind is habitual programming, it only knows what we teach it. So the more we consciously run these thoughts and behaviours, the more we will unconsciously run them.
The second way, is to plant the desired programming when you have direct access to the subconscious mind, which only happens when the brain is in the theta state. The theta state, in adults, can be accessed just before falling asleep and just before awakening.
By listening to a hypnosis audio or subliminal music (Music with subliminal messages that can only be heard by the subconscious mind and cannot be heard consciously) when you are drifting off to sleep, you will pour in the programming during the entire time the brain is in the theta wave state.
This is the ultimate lazy way to reprogram your subconscious mind. This is MY way.
This is probably one of the most powerful things you can do to manifest happiness, success or your desires into your reality.
You can find hundreds, if not thousands of subliminal and hypnosis audios on YouTube, or, you can create your own.
Write a quick script (so you don’t freeze on what to say) of things you want to be true for yourself (list all the things you can think of), on things you want to manifest into your life and emotions you want to feel. Remember to keep the statements in the positive (eg “I am happy” instead of “I don’t want to be sad”). Then grab your smartphone and record yourself saying these statements in a slow, quiet, relaxing and soft voice – remember you want to be able to go to sleep. You can even play relaxing music in the background to sooth you and help you unwind. I’d suggest making the audio around 30 minutes long (or longer if you can). You can repeat your list over and over for the whole 30 minutes but remember not to rush it, take your time and put some belief into those statements.
Then, each night, pop some earphones into your phone and play the audio you have created while drifting off to sleep. No one has to know what you’re listening to or the statements that you’ve recorded. You’ve done your bit, now let your pre-recorded words do the hard work.
Think of something you’d like to be, do or have in your life right now and brainstorm all the ways you can apply these three anchors to help condition your subconscious mind to work for you.
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